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A couple of days ago, my friend Matt came over to my house. I have a roof leak. And we went up on my roof to figure out what was happening. My roof is high up there. It’s steep. Parts are slippery. It can be scary. When we were up there, just him being there with me and listening to what he said gave me confidence that we would solve this roof leak problem. No doubt. Similarly, in life, if we can practice the presence of God in every situation in life, and listen to, read, remember, and apply the truth, then we can solve any problem in life and have no doubts, worries, or fear.  Fear is an emotion. It can stop us in our tracks. Stop us from living the more than abundant life that is available to us. However, by applying the Word in practical ways, we can overcome fear and live in peace and with power and confidence.  Please turn to 2 Timothy . Aristotle said, "He who has overcome his fears will truly be free.” Let’s check out some biblical principles (promises, truths) and practical steps to live without fear and to be free. Fear does not come from God. Fear is a spiritual attack that seeks to disrupt our fellowship with God. Fear tries to cover or remove the presence of God in your life. Fear wants to break the connection between you and your belief in God’s promises. Let’s read 2 Timothy 1:7 , "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." There’s an article in the Way’s library titled “Living Without Fear” ( www.thewayinternational.com/living-without-fear ). I encourage you to read it.  In that article, we learn that we can live without fear because God gave us POWER like we read. When we are born again, we receive a gift. And the gift is holy spirit. Along with that gift, comes many things, including power.  Let’s turn to and read Acts 1:8 . “ But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost [holy spirit] is come upon you…” When that gift of holy spirit (referred to here as the Holy Ghost) is come upon you (when you are born again), you receive also POWER. Let’s turn to and read Ephesians 1:19 . Ephesians 1:19 says, “And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to usward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power.” When you believe, BELIEVE in what is written, you’re powerful, and you don’t fear anything. (Born Again, Gift, Power, Believe, No Fear). A born-again believer has the gift of holy spirit, that potential power, residing (sitting, living) within them. Ready to go. This power from God is manifested when we hear the Word, and then carry it out, by believing that the Word is true. I believe that the Word has promises from God that I can claim, take for myself, and make those promises into a reality. And that’s powerful. For example, in Ephesians, we’re in Ephesians, let’s turn to and read Ephesians 3:20 . This is a promise from God, that we can see, read, believe, and apply, so that we become powerful, and we can live without fear.  Someone read Ephesians 3:20: Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. There’s a power that works within us, and God is able to do and exceed anything that we can ask or think of. Really? Yeah. So, prove it.  The word says to prove what you believe. Let’s turn to and read 1 Thessalonians 5:21 , which says, "Prove all things; hold fast that which is good." Prove it. “Prove Ephesians 3:20, Ben!”  Okay. Take a look around. You’re sitting in my proof, my evidence, that I have received something above that I couldn’t have ever asked for or thought of. That’s pretty powerful. That’s one tip. God gave us POWER. Here’s a second tip to living without fear. LOVE. Please turn to 1 John . We can live without fear because God gave us LOVE. What is love? We’re in 1 John… Let’s turn to and read 1 John 4:8:  God is love.  Let’s turn to and read I John 4:18: “ There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear.” So God is love. There’s no fear in love. There’s no fear in God. The perfect love of God casts out fear. What is the love of God?  Let’s turn to and read I John 5:3: For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous. God is love. There’s no fear in love, so there’s no fear in God. Perfect love of God casts out fear. What’s the perfect love of God? We keep his commandments–we learn the Word and apply it to our lives. That casts our fear.  Love is the antidote for fear. Fear is like a poison. It’s that which tries to break the connection between you and your belief in God’s promises. Love has the power to neutralize and overcome fear, just as an antidote neutralizes poison. So, God provided everything we need to live an abundant life without fear by giving us His Word. In II Peter 1, it says that knowing God’s Word gives us everything about life.  Let’s turn to and read II Peter 1:3 . "According as his divine power hath given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that hath called us to glory and virtue." We have access to everything that pertains to life and godliness.  When we energize the power within us, focus on living God’s love, and keeping His commandments (which can be applied to everything in life), we’ll find that we’re filled with, surrounded by, LOVE. And where there is love, there is no room for fear.  Power, Love. A third tip for living without fear. A SOUND MIND.  We can live without fear because God gave us a SOUND MIND. A sound mind means that you have good thoughts, and good judgment. You are disciplined in your thinking. Your thoughts are rooted and grounded in something solid.  For a home inspector, something “sound” is that which is built well, like a house on a strong foundation, with a strong support structure, that which can be relied on. It’s sound.  A sound mind is NOT something that runs wild. Fear is an emotion that can run wild. Out of control. I read that a wild mind is like trying to ride on a blind horse in the dark. The horse can’t see, and neither can you. Imagine that. In contrast, in John 8:12 (don’t turn there), Jesus says: "I am the LIGHT of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life." That sounds so good, right?  We eliminate darkness and fear when we focus our minds on light. We take control of any situation when we focus our thoughts, on God and His Word. We constantly check with the Word. A mental check. Always asking ourselves and each other, in every situation, “Hey, what does the Word say?” NOT, “What does the “world” say.” But rather, what does the “Word” say?  What does the Word say? Well, II Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” Please turn to Romans 12. We have the right, as sons and daughters in God’s family, to rely on God’s POWER every day. We can LOVE, which is the antidote for fear. And because fear happens in the MIND, we can overcome fear by learning how to control our thoughts.  How do we do that? We simply choose to renew our minds to the light of God’s Word. Let’s turn to and read Romans 12:2. It says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Rather than being conformed and affected by the fears of this world, we can be “transformed.” We can literally change the form of our minds. Like the change of a caterpillar to a butterfly, the mind can be transformed. We can put the Word in our minds and decide to think and act according to the truth of that Word. In John 6:63, Jesus Christ said, “…the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.” To renew, or change, the mind, we must feed the mind with the best stuff. The words you speak to your mind, they are life. Look… you can eat in two ways, you can eat with your stomach, and you can eat with your mind. Be careful what you feed your body AND your mind. Renewing your mind involves replacing negative thoughts with positive ones from God’s Word. Try it. Prove it. Prove to yourself that the Word works. Read the Word, the spiritual truths, the promises of God, those things that people thousands of years ago, inspired by God to write, they wanted you to know the Word, so that today, you can feed your mind, and live a life more than abundant. Let’s try it. We will see ourselves transformed from fear to freedom, by learning and applying God’s word. God is not the source of fear. God is the source of power, and of love, and of a sound mind, and we can claim those verses, take those spiritual truths, and apply those promises from the Word. We can feed our minds, and be filled with love, which casts out all fear. As we learn more Word and renew our minds to the Word, we will know that – we can live without fear .

Let's explore a topic that affects us all—overcoming fear. When we look at the Bible, we see that both Jesus and Paul had a lot to say about conquering fear through faith (believing) and the power of the Holy Spirit. Jesus taught the importance of trusting in God, and Paul later showed us how the gift of the Holy Spirit takes that confidence to an even higher level. Together, their teachings give us a roadmap to living fearlessly. Let’s explore what each of them had to say and how their messages can help us find freedom from fear today. Understanding Faith as Trust in God Jesus taught people how to trust and believe in God. When we dig into the New Testament, we come across the Greek word pistis , which means “trusting belief in God.” Since Jesus probably spoke in Aramaic or Hebrew, he would have used words like aman or hema to describe trusting in God, but the New Testament writers captured his teachings in Greek, using pistis to communicate that deep, trusting faith. After Pentecost, Paul comes along, building on Jesus’ teachings and showing that believers, now filled with the Holy Spirit, can live with even greater confidence and freedom from fear. Here’s a quick outline of what we’ll explore: How Jesus taught people to overcome fear by trusting in God’s power and promises. Why Jesus’ teachings on faith (pistis) were crucial before the Holy Spirit was given. How Paul taught that the Holy Spirit inside believers brings a new level of power, love, and confidence. The transformation that comes with the gift of the Holy Spirit (Romans 8:37). How, as God’s children, with “God in Christ” in us, we can live with courage and confidence. Jesus’ Teachings on Faith and Fear When Jesus talked about overcoming fear, he focused on pistis, or faith, meaning a trust in God’s power and promises. Before Pentecost, believers didn’t yet have the Holy Spirit living inside them; that gift came later in Acts 2. So, Jesus emphasized relying on God’s promises and power as the foundation for living without fear. In Mark 5:36 , for example, Jairus has just received the devastating news that his daughter has died. Jesus reassures him, saying, "Be not afraid, only believe." Here, Jesus connects belief (pisteuō) directly with overcoming fear, encouraging Jairus to trust in God’s power, even in a moment of despair. Jesus is showing us that believing in God brings life free from fear. In Matthew 17:20 , Jesus tells his disciples, "If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove." A mustard seed is tiny, yet it grows into a large plant. Jesus uses this to illustrate that even a small amount of faith can accomplish what seems impossible. It’s not the size of our faith that matters, but how we use it—even a small “seed” of belief can move mountains of fear. Then in John 14:1 , right before his crucifixion, Jesus knows his disciples will feel lost and afraid, so he tells them, "Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me." Here, Jesus encourages them to trust in him as they trust in God. This belief would give them the courage they’d need when he was no longer physically with them. In each of these examples, Jesus teaches that trusting in God’s presence, power, and promises is key to living without fear. And this was especially important at a time when the Holy Spirit was not yet available. Jesus’ Promise of the Holy Spirit Even though Jesus taught that faith was the way to overcome fear, he also promised that a new source of strength was coming. In John 14:16-17 , Jesus says, "And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you forever." Here, Jesus is preparing his followers for the coming of the Holy Spirit, who would provide them with comfort, guidance, and divine power to face fear. When Pentecost arrived, everything changed. The Holy Spirit came upon believers (Acts 2), and Paul was now teaching with a fresh perspective. Building on Jesus’ teachings, Paul explained that the gift of the Holy Spirit within each believer brings courage, confidence, and power to overcome any fear. Paul’s Teachings on Overcoming Fear Through the Holy Spirit Paul expanded on Jesus’ message by explaining how the Holy Spirit equips us to face fear with strength. In 2 Timothy 1:7 , Paul writes, "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." Paul highlights three qualities that the Holy Spirit gives us: Power : God’s strength within us, which confronts fear directly. Love : God’s perfect love, which drives out fear. In 1 John 4:18, we’re reminded that “perfect love casteth out fear.” When we understand God’s love for us, we can grow and mature, letting go of fear. Sound Mind : A stable and confident mindset that keeps us grounded, even in tough times. This is the promise in 2 Timothy 1:7. In Ephesians 3:16 , Paul prays that believers "be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man," emphasizing that the Holy Spirit gives believers inner strength. Unlike the outward trust people needed before Pentecost, this strength is internal—God’s Spirit living inside us and helping us overcome fear. Freedom from Fear as God’s Children Paul also teaches that the Holy Spirit confirms our adoption as God’s children. Romans 8:15 says, "For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father." This relationship with God removes fear of rejection or separation from him. As children of God, we walk confidently, knowing God is always with us. The Guidance and Assurance of the Holy Spirit Today, as believers, we continue to live with the guidance and comfort of the Holy Spirit. Jesus promised this in John 16:13 , saying, "Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth." And in Romans 8:16 , we read, “The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God.” This inner assurance is a constant reminder that we are God’s beloved children, helping us live with confidence and without fear. Conclusion So, to wrap things up: Jesus taught that even a small amount of faith can help us overcome fear when we trust in God. Paul went on to teach that the Holy Spirit within us provides even more: power, love, a sound mind, and the assurance of being God’s children. Both Jesus and Paul emphasized that freedom from fear comes from trusting in God. Jesus taught belief in God’s promises, while Paul showed how the Holy Spirit empowers us to live confidently as God’s children. Together, their teachings reveal that faith and the Holy Spirit enable us to conquer fear and live abundantly. So, let’s take hold of this power, knowing that God’s Spirit within us gives us strength to face whatever comes our way. God bless you, and may you walk in this confidence every day!

On a typical Friday night, my daughters are very busy with activities. My oldest may have a drink with her good friend. My middle child may go to a game with her group of buddies. My youngest may invite her close friends over for a movie. In these moments, I think about what fine young women they have become. And how well they make friends and get along with others. Because they have that Word within them that makes them shine as bright lights. And they’re approachable and friendly. And they are willing to share themselves with others.  And that made me think of a story about two men who lived a couple thousand years ago. They had a goal to meet others, share what they knew, speak God’s Word and to bring others to knowing that an abundant life is available to them. They each had the mindset of an ambassador for Christ. Please turn to the Book of Acts, Chapter 13.  Oh, I forgot. God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ. Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. Here's a short spiritual teaching about finding common ground with others. I hope you enjoy it. Ambassador What’s an ambassador? An ambassador is a diplomatic official of the highest rank, sent by a one country to another as its resident representative. An authorized messenger or representative. To me, there is no greater goal one might have in life than to be the best ambassador of the more than abundant life, an ambassador for Christ, an authorized messenger of God’s Word, a representative of living with the unconditional love of God in a renewed mind in manifestation. Barnabas and Paul Now, let's get to these two fellas. These two men who lived 2,000 years ago were Barnabas and Paul. They helped each other live the Word, and they both loved to speak the Word. In fact, they spoke the Word together for a whole year to many people in one city (Acts 11:26). After that, God wanted them to preach the Word in some new places (Acts 13:2,3). One day they were in a city called Antioch with the goal of telling others about the Lord Jesus Christ and God’s plan of salvation for them. Incredible guys. When they got to the city, they went to the synagogue, a place where they knew that many people of Judean background who had an interest in God would be gathered together. They attended the service there; and when it was done, the speaker asked them if they had anything to say. What a great question. And opportunity. For an ambassador. Acts 13: 15: And after the reading of the law and the prophets the rulers of the synagogue sent unto them, saying, Ye men and brethren, if ye have any word of exhortation for the people, say o n. They were given an invitation to speak, given an audience, and a wide open door to walk through and speak about the Lord Jesus Christ. But you know what? They didn’t start right off with waving a finger, yelling about getting saved, or condemnation. Nope.  Paul was the one who did the speaking on this occasion, and he began to gain the attention of the Judeans in the synagogue by showing great respect and by finding common ground concerning what people believed in. Respect and common ground. This is a helpful key to beginning a conversation—just simple respect, easy talking, and finding common ground. Acts 13: 16,17:  16: Then Paul stood up, and beckoning with his hand said, Men of Israel, and ye that fear [respect] God, give audience [pay attention]. 17: The God of this people of Israel chose our fathers, and exalted the people when they dwelt as strangers in the land of Egypt, and with an high arm brought he them out of it. Here, Paul reminded them of a very important event in their history as believers—when God delivered Israel out of Egypt. Then he went on to remind them of more that God had done for them, speaking of Samuel the prophet, King Saul, and King David. After covering these familiar records of believers from the Old Testament, whom they respected, he introduced them to Jesus, explaining that this descendant of King David was a savior. Acts 13: 23,26:  23: Of this man’s [David’s] seed hath God according to his promise raised unto Israel a Saviour, Jesus.  26: Men and brethren, children of the stock of Abraham, and whosoever among you feareth [respects] God, to you is the word of this salvation sent. Paul then told them that Jesus had been slain but that God raised him from the dead. Acts 13: 28-30:  28: And though they [the Judeans at Jerusalem] found no cause of death in him [Jesus], yet desired they Pilate that he should be slain. 29: And when they had fulfilled all that was written of him, they took him down from the tree, and laid him in a sepulchre. 30: But God raised him from the dead. Paul then told the members of the synagogue in Antioch that they could not be made righteous through Moses and the law — but only through Jesus who had been crucified and whom God raised from the dead. Acts 13: 38,39:  38: Be it known unto you therefore, men and brethren, that through this man [Jesus] is preached unto you the forgiveness [remission] of sins. 39: And by him [Jesus] all that believe are justified [legally made righteous] from all things, from which ye could not be justified by the law of Moses. It was important for them to know that Jesus died for them and that God raised him from the dead, because a person gets born again by confessing Jesus as their lord and believing that God raised him from the dead. They also needed to know that through Jesus Christ they could be made legally righteous before God and enjoy God’s grace to them. Not everyone believed Paul on that day, but some did. And many came back to hear more. The next Sabbath day, almost the whole city came together to hear the Word of God, and as a result, the God was talked about throughout all the region (Acts 13:44,49). Summary We just learned about finding common ground with other just like Paul and Barnabas. God’s Word was made known throughout all of that area, because each of these two men went into the city of Antioch with the mindset of an ambassador for Christ. Their mindset sounds a lot like the one we have. You and I. And this gives me an idea for something we all can do. How about we get up each day this week — with the goal of bringing the spiritual truths that we know — into our conversations — as we speak to others? Yes? Some people don’t know about God; others know him only a little bit. I encourage you to reach for that goal in life of being a good ambassador for Christ by reaching out to others with God’s Word. God Bless. - Benjamin

Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ. I think there's something wrong in the way we look at the world. So, here's some free advice that might help us  change the way we think  and live in the world--hopefully for the better. And it has to do with taking the responsibility of being in the middle.  CHANGE Clearly there are various ways to see things. And when we change the way we see things, the things we see change. And if you change the way you see the world, the world changes. That's pretty clear to me. So, let's talk about one way of looking at the world. MEANING IN LIFE One way to look at the world and reality is to see meaning (or lack thereof). What is the meaning of life? Is there a meaning in life? For the Buddha, the meaning of life was about helping others achieve freedom from suffering. For Socrates, the meaning of life was to seek a state of well-being, a healthy spirit, and the ultimate good for others. For many Christians, it's about loving God, yourself, and applying biblical truths in serving others so they become spiritually mature and more perfect. There are many other definitions of the meaning of life. And we're not going to get to the right answer in this article. But one meaning that I favor has to do with responsibility and being in the middle. RESPONSIBLITY Responsibility is an obligation a person takes on. For the moment, let's say it could be the burden of bettering oneself and serving others in order make the world a better place to live. Something like that. And I've found that women have an easier time than men knowing what responsibility means. Its meaning is clear to many people, particularly women. Women seem to know what they have to do. But men have to work on figuring it out. Many men eventually do figure out what responsibility means. ​Mature men enjoy responsibility. Ask them. They like lifting the weight of the burden. They like the challenging task. Men enjoy going to work. That's for sure. They'll say, "I'll do it," when no one else offers to do so. They'll tend to sacrifice themselves for someone they love. And on and on. This is my experience with spiritually mature men and women. So, if you're looking for meaning in life, check your responsibility. Check to see if you're working to make the world a better place by bettering yourself and helping and serving others. Responsibility creates a meaning for life. Let's take a look at the opposite -- meaninglessness. Then we'll look at where your responsibility should be located so that you have meaning in life. MEANINGLESSNESS ​I know of many people who live in a meaninglessness world and perceive living in world that has no meaning. Their perspective is that the world in which we live is basically without meaning. There's no point. For many, it's hopeless. The meaningless perspective in life goes something like this. We live on a planet, one out of millions apparently. Located in an ordinary common galaxy, one out of billions of spiraling galaxies, each filled with billions of stars like our own Sun. And the reality of life, in this meaningless perspective, is that the universe is made up of dead matter that has by randomness arranged themselves in very complex patterns. The human being is simply one fancy complex thing that has come out of this material substrate arrangement. The human body is complex, for sure, but little more than one of billions of biological living things on this particular planet that eats, poops, makes babies, and thinks of silly egotistical things to do and say. NOT MUCH OF A FOUNDATION In my opinion, this way of seeing the world and reality is not much of a foundation upon which to build a more than abundant life. I feel that this view of the world is wrong and nihilistic, which is a fancy word used to describe someone who can reject spiritual and moral principles in the belief that life is meaningless. I believe there is meaning to life. There exists a good solid way in which to view the world, one that provides a reason to live and a way to live a life that is meaningful, abundant, and powerful. And it has little to nothing to do with our man-made religions and subjugating dogma that have imprisoned and destroyed ignorant people of the past. And it has nearly everything to do with God. What is God? God is not an old bearded man in the sky doing good and bad things. That's just silly. You might as well believe in Zeus or Gaia. I don't. Neither should you. Let me explain by talking a bit about duality. And that's where the "middle" is located. DUALITY The universe has duality. There's off and on. There's 0 and 1. The world is filled with what you know and what you don't know. There's duality is physics (principle of complementarity), biology (male and female), mathematics (zero and 1), art (black and white), philosophy (true and false), poetry (love and hate), personal attitude (negative and positive), politics (liberal and conservative), and on and on. The yin-yang symbol is dual. And there's duality in your brain--you have two hemispheres with all of the connective action located in the middle (the corpus callosum). WHAT'S IN THE MIDDLE? The responsibility to create order out of chaos is in the middle. And there stories of a man who used to work in the middle of things in order to serve others. Jesus was in the middle or "the midst" many times in his life. He's was in the middle of doctors, elders, the church, apostles, law breakers, Israel, etc. There's something special about being in the midst. He tended to get in the midst (in the middle) before speaking or acting. He was the mediator between disputing parties, the path between death and life, the way from darkness to light, and the bridge between you and God. In Philippians 2:5, it says that all of us are to be of the same mind as Jesus Christ. What does that mean? It's easy to understand by checking out Philippians Chapter 2 where it says that joy in life (a joyful meaning in life) can be experienced by being of the same mind with someone else, by having the same love one toward another, by being knit together in spirit, both intent on one purpose and moving in the same direction, and living a meaningful life that reflects your believing and communication by your words and actions. The key to understanding this and other spiritual truths and statements about love is to know that this "same love" is not about emotion. It's more about doing things unselfishly for the benefit of other people and a willingness to work and seek the best for another. Now, that sounds like there's meaning in life. And it has something to do with the responsibility of being in the middle. Responsibility Being in the middle Same mind Let's talk about what really matters in life. WHAT REALLY MATTERS The word "matter" has two important meanings. Matter has duality. There's the physical substrate matter that all stuff is composed of. And there is "what matters" in life. It seems to me that the world is made up of what really matters. In relation to Darwinian evolution, the brain reacts to the environment based upon what matters to it. Life evolves based upon what really matters to it. Biology is based upon this concept that a living being is adapted to reality, and the reality of life is what you've adapted to based upon what really matters. That the basis of biological evolution. Reality is that which selects over a course of evolutionary time, and what is selected is what really matters. Your brain responds to what really matters. And it's not just by random chance that your brain is split in two. Two hemispheres. Duality. And what really matters is located in the connection between the two hemispheres. What really matters is what takes place in the middle. ​In the midst. ​ It seems to me that being in the middle of things is where life really matters. YOUR BRAIN The universe is also dual. It's made up of this and that. Your brain works well in figuring out the difference between this and that--what you know and what you don't know. That's the duality of reality. You know stuff and you don't know stuff. The cerebrum, the big part of the brain, is also dual. It's divided into two parts--a left and a right hemisphere. The two parts are connected by the nerve fibers called the corpus callosum. That's where all the exciting stuff happens for sure. In the middle, between the two parts of your brain, is a ton of electrical neuron fibers connecting the two parts of the whole, working really hard, trying to make sense of it all. Chaos is what you don't know. Order is what you know. When you don't know something, you can become uncomfortable and unpeaceful. That's chaotic. When you are familiar with something and your surroundings, you comfortable and peaceful. That's order. Your brain is constantly trying to create order out of chaos. Meaning comes from creating order out of chaos. That's one way of reading Genesis Chapter 1 where God (spirit, light, power, love) creates order out of chaos (Genesis 1:2) by using truthful communication. And time and time again, we see from the verses that "it was good." It's good to take the responsibility of being in the middle of things (where it really matters) and use truthful communication to create order from chaos. CHAOS AND ORDER Chaos is what you don't know, and order is what you do know. And the interplay between the two provides a meaning of life. Where should you be? In the middle. Where does all of the meaning come from? It comes from being in the midst and working through the middle and differences between what you know and what you don't know in order to create order, peace, and love out of the potentially chaotic world around you. Be in the middle. Think about it. You don't want to be in the middle of only chaos (that's too much instability and uncertainty), and you don't want to be in the middle of only order (that's a boring place). What you want to do is get in the middle of both or everything. Get one foot in the chaos, and put the other in order. That's the position and location from which you can create and live a wonderful meaning of life. The middle. If you're all in either side, you can't grow. A person grows when they're balanced as much as they can. When you're in the right place at the right time, you're likely managing the meaning of life, right in the middle of things. Thinking through and considering both perspectives or all sides. Moving between life and death. Seeing between light and dark. Deciding between good and evil. This is the way to live. THE WAY Taoism is a Chinese philosophy based on the writings of Lao-tzu, who lived in the 6th century BC. Taoism means "the way." Jesus referred to himself as the way (between who and where you are... and your destination of knowing God being spirit, light, power, abundance, and peace.) And I think we ought to choose a way and walk a path with meaning. A path between (in the middle) of a world of chaos and order, yin and yang, right and wrong, life and death, love and hate. Matthew 18:19-21 says, "Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Philippians 2:14-16 says, Do everything without murmuring or questioning [the providence of God], so that you may prove yourselves to be blameless and guileless, innocent and uncontaminated, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and spiritually troubled generation, among whom you are seen as bright lights in the world of darkness, holding out and offering to everyone communicative truthful words of life, so that you will have a reason to rejoice greatly because you did not run you race in vain nor labor without result." Gautama Buddha wrote about "Middle Way" and it is literally referred to as "teaching by the middle." Gautama Buddha used the middle way to describe the character of the Noble Eightfold Path he discovered that leads to liberation. And to me, that's a meaningful life. We have a responsibility of walking the middle path to create order and peace from chaos and suffering in order to think, live, and love better and serve others as we make the world a better place. And it will be good. FROM CHAOS TO ORDER As I see it, one thing that really matters in life is when you make things a bit better than they were. You help change some disorder and chaos into order. You help put things back into a balance. You communicate truthful words in order to create something good out of a universe full of potential, disorder, and chaos. And to do that, you have to be in "the thick of things," right in the middle of it all. That's a good meaning in life, if you ask me. HOMEWORK Get in the middle of something and speak truthfully to make it good. God Bless. - Benjamin

Right up front, I'm going to say that it's ultimately up to you to answer this question in order for the answer to mean something in your life. My answer is, "Yes." But that answer does not help you unless you believe it. Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. God bless you in the power name of Jesus Christ. I hope you enjoy the following short teaching about God. It's reasonable to believe in something without having to prove the assertion. Let me repeat that. It's reasonable to believe in something without being required to prove it exists. But Can I Prove God Exists? My answer is "Yes." Please give me 60 seconds to provide a reasonable explanation for my answer. Man's Best Friend I grew up with a dog name Bandit. That dog loved me. He walked with me. He talked with me. He protected me. ​He came when I called for him. He answered me. He was my best friend. I couldn't imagine growing up without that dog. He loved me. That dog loved me. But I can't prove it. I can't prove that my dog loved me. There's no evidence. There's no science or data that can prove that his love for me existed. And to require evidence that a dog is man's best friend seems unreasonable. We all know this to be true. Sometimes, my wife has some back pain. Not all the time. Just sometimes. That's my wife in the picture. She's the most beautiful woman in the world. Sometimes, her pain, on a scale from 1 to 10, is a 15. Again, it's not persistent; it's not all the time. It's here and there. If any of you have ever had back pain, it's a real pain in the butt. Heh. It's something that is always with you, sometimes you forget it, and then, "Bam!" It's there. It's been years. We've had the best doctors. The best science has been researched and applied. We've taken tests, seen the results, and made decisions based on that data. And we're doing better. The pain is going away. And we're getting healthier and healthier every day. My wife will be 100% healthy at some point—maybe it's today. And we'll celebrate that "day without pain" for sure. But to ask my wife to prove she's in pain is unreasonable. Doctors, science, and data do not prove the pain exists, but it does. It's subjective. Only my wife, my wife alone, can tell you what she's experiencing, what she's going through. It can't be measured. Doctors and scientists can acknowledge what people testify to, but often, they can't prove it. Prove Your Love If you think you are in love and that your companion loves you, just ask them for information that you can verify, specifically with a neutral third-party scientist that could prove the love. This should be simple for any mature, reasonable human being who says they're in love. Yes? Just ask your companion to prove it. See what they say. I warn you, this may start a dispute. Burden of Proof The burden of proof is the obligation of someone in a dispute to provide sufficient justification for their position, which may include perceptual experience (the evidence brought to you by your senses), reason (making sense of things based upon existing information), and authoritative testimony (solemn attestation as to the truth of a matter; to bear witness to; to declare something to be correct, true, or genuine; to declare the truth of something in words or writing). But my dog and I, my wife and I, are not in a dispute. I remember my dog. And I believe my wife. The Queen of England and President Trump I have every reason to believe these two human beings exist. They are alive and well, at least for the time being. I believe they exist even though I've never met them. I've never actually seen them. I've never heard them say a single word. I've never touched them. Or smelled them. I've never even taken a picture of them. I've stood in front of the Queen's castle and the White House. But I have actually no evidence they exist. Yet I have every reason to believe they do. Millions of people follow them. (Trump has more than 84 million Twitter followers, as of today). Millions have said they've seen these people. People say that they've been deeply and forever affected by their words and actions. People say that they've changed their entire lives, because of these two people (Trump and the Queen). Many people hate them. Many love them. It's reasonable for me to assume that millions of people are not lying to themselves and to others. They're not imagining things. It would be unreasonable for me to require millions of people to provide 3rd-party neutral scientific evidence of what they believe in Trump or the Queen of England. And it's not unreasonable because I have never met Trump or the Queen of England, or that I don't believe those two people exist. It's just because it's unreasonable, it's not rational, to require proof of the assertion that they do indeed exist. Describe God To Me You could probably describe your best friend's personality, distinguishing characteristics, favorite food, or hobbies. Right? Just as you can describe your friend, you can actually describe what God is. Thousands of years ago, men and women testified as to what they described as God. Their descriptions are written down in the bible. People, inspired by God, wrote down what they believed best describes what God is. God, my inspiring people, gave us a description of himself in his Word, so that you can know God. Let’s learn about what God is by taking a look a few biblical verses. Creator In Genesis 1:1, we see that God is a creator. Genesis 1:1, "In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth." Faithful In Deuteronomy 7:9, God is faithful, which means reliable; trusted; true to one's word, promises, and assertions. Deuteronomy 7:9, "Know therefore that the Lord thy God, he is God, the faithful God, which keepeth covenant and mercy with them that love him and keep his commandments to a thousand generations." Good Psalms 34:8 says that God is good. Psalms 34:8, "O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him." Great Psalms 135:5 says that God is great. Psalms 135:5, "For I know that the Lord is great, and that our Lord is above all gods." Powerful Psalms 147:5 says that God is powerful. Psalms 147:5, "Great is our Lord, and of great power: his understanding is infinite." Strong Isaiah 26:4 says that God is strong. Isaiah 26:4, "Trust ye in the Lord for ever: for in the Lord Jehovah is everlasting strength." Spirit John 4:24 says that God is a Spirit, and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth. John 4:24, "God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth." Not a Man Is God an old man with a big, bushy grey beard? No. Is God a man? No. Is God a woman? No. Is God Jesus? No. No to all of those questions. God is spirit, energy, and light. The word “worship” in that verse (John 4:24) is the Greek word pronounced "pros-koo-neh'-o," which means to reverence. Worship is a feeling, attitude, or gesture of deep respect; an act of devotion, adoration, or manifestation or acknowledgment offered to God. And the word “spirit” in that verse is the Greek word "pneuma," which refers to the spiritual energy inside you. Spirit connects you to God and everything in the universe. You may want to read "Spirit is a Force" in TheKingsGuide.com for more information. Peace God is peace in 1 Corinthians 14:33. 1 Corinthians 14:33, "For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints." Father God is a father in 1 Corinthians 8:6, which says "But to us there is but one God, the Father, of whom are all things, and we in him; and one Lord Jesus Christ, by whom are all things, and we by him." Acknowledging God as a “father,” our heavenly father, help us realize all that he can and will do for us. Just as an earthly father has certain abilities that enable him to care for his children, God, our heavenly father, cares for us and fulfills his promises. Ephesians 1:3 says that "God is our heavenly father, and father of Jesus Christ." So, God is also a father to Jesus Christ, who was a wonderful spiritual man. Supplier Philippians 4:19 says that God is a supplier. And this is where where praying comes in. You may want to read "Trusting in God by Praying" in TheKingsGuide.com to learn what praying is. Light 1 John 1:5 says that God is light. Light. God is energy and light. 2 Corinthians 4:18 says that we consider and look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen; for the things that are visible are temporal (brief and fleeting), but the things that are invisible are deathless and everlasting. When we live in the light, we see things others can not. The unseen things of the world become visible and known to us, and we thereby become wise. Love 1 John 4:16 says that God is love. That's pretty plain and simple to understand. What do you love? I love my wife, my children, pepperoni pizza, football, and many other things. But who do you love? Who? Wherever there is love between people, there God is. Matthew 18:20 says, "For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.” To learn more about being in the midst, read "The Meaning of Life Is in the Middle" from TheKingsGuide.com Conclusion In conclusion, we now have a pretty good description of God. People are always looking for evidence or proof of God's existence. They do not see that God is all around us. He’s creation, goodness, peace, light, and love. It's reasonable to believe in something without having to prove it. Now, by studying God’s Word, we have a pretty good idea of who God is.

God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ. Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. Today, let’s learn about God's grace—His unmerited favor and unconditional love—and how it transforms our lives. We will look at the stories of Jonah, Ruth, and Peter, which illustrate how God's grace worked in their lives and how we can apply these lessons to our lives as members of the body of Christ. We will see how God's unconditional love and grace benefit us all, enabling us to live healthy, prosperous, loving, and abundant lives. Let’s turn to Romans 11. First, Let’s Understand God's Grace. As God's children, we have received abundant blessings and gifts from God, the most fundamental of which is salvation. But we may feel that there must be something more we need to do to deserve such love and care. Nay. Romans 11:6 tells us otherwise: "And if by grace, then is it no more of works: otherwise grace is no more grace. But if it be of works, then is it no more grace: otherwise work is no more work." If salvation is by grace, then it can’t be based on works, because grace, by definition, is a free gift. If it were based on works, it would no longer be a gift.  God made this wonderful gift of grace available out of His love for us, just like loving parents care for their children.  This scripture highlights that God's grace is freely given, not something we can earn. John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." God’s love, through the accomplishments of Jesus Christ, is the foundation of His grace - a gift given without expectation of return. Let’s Check Out God's Grace in Action. Turn to Ephesians 2. Ephesians 2, verses 4 through 9, gives us a beautiful picture of God’s grace in action: "But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us (past tense) together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;) And hath raised us (past tense) up together, and made us (past tense) sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus: That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus. For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast." This passage emphasizes that our salvation is a gift from God, a manifestation of His rich mercy and great love. We didn’t earn it through our deeds; it was freely given through the accomplishments of Jesus Christ. This truth should bring immense comfort and assurance, dispelling any doubts, worries, or fears about our standing with God. That’s Grace. Now, Let’s Go To Jonah, and Learn a Lesson in Changing One’s Mind and Experiencing Grace. Jesus Christ came to reveal and destroy the works of the devil, our adversary, who is behind the bad things that happen in life. John 10:10 tells us, "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." The adversary, our adversary, the devil, is described in 1 Peter 5:8 as "a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour." When we read the Old Testament stories, like Jonah, it is important to remember that the adversary caused bad events that we learn about, not God. The story of Jonah provides a powerful illustration of God’s grace and the importance of repentance and changing one’s mind. Let’s turn to Jonah 1.  Jonah is called by God to preach repentance to the people of Nineveh but initially he runs away from his mission. After being swallowed by a great fish and experiencing God's grace, he eventually obeys and helps bring the people of Nineveh to repentance, demonstrating God's willingness to give second chances. Let’s Look at Jonah's Call and Disobedience.Jonah 1:1-3 shows Jonah fleeing from God's call to go to Nineveh. This act of disobedience sets off a chain of events that leads Jonah right into the belly of a great fish, which is a moment of crisis and reflection. But Here’s the Repentance and Grace. In Jonah 3:1-2, you can see God's grace: "And the word of the Lord came unto Jonah the second time, saying, Arise, go unto Nineveh, that great city, and preach unto it the preaching that I bid thee." Despite Jonah's initial disobedience, God gives him a second chance. Jonah 3:10 further illustrates this grace: "And God saw their works, that they turned from their evil way; and God repented of the evil, that he had said that he would do unto them; and he did it not." God's grace extended not only to Jonah but also to the people of Nineveh when they repented. How Can We Apply This Lesson? We Can Benefit from God's Unconditional Love. We learn that God’s grace can bring us back no matter how far we stray. This encourages us to change our minds and return to God, knowing His grace is always available. Jonah experienced God’s grace firsthand and extended that message to Nineveh, showing that God’s love and grace are for everyone. Let’s Turn To Ruth and Learn How We Can Embrace Love and Grace. Let’s turn to Ruth 1.  Ruth’s story is a testament to God’s providence and grace through love and loyalty. Ruth, a Moabite widow, shows unwavering loyalty to her mother-in-law Naomi and chooses to follow the God of Israel. Her faithfulness leads her to Boaz, her kinsman-redeemer, through whom God blesses her with a new life and a place in the lineage of Jesus Christ. Ruth Was Very Loyalty to Naomi.Ruth 1:16 shows Ruth's commitment: "And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God." Wow. There was lots of grace and love here.Ruth 2:12 highlights Boaz’s recognition of Ruth’s loyalty. So, Ruth was loyal. And Boaz recognized that. And he restored her to the family. "The Lord recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the Lord God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust." Ruth’s loyalty and love led her to Boaz, her kinsman-redeemer. And this symbolizes Christ’s redeeming love for us. Just like Boaz redeemed Ruth, Christ redeemed us. Christ is the ultimate kinsman-redeemer who, through His sacrifice, redeemed humanity from sin and restored all of us to the family of God.  How Can We Apply This to Our Lives? Ruth’s story teaches us that God’s grace often manifests through acts of love and loyalty. By embracing and giving love, we position ourselves to receive God's grace and favor. Ruth, a foreigner, was embraced into God’s family and blessed abundantly because of her faithfulness and love. Let’s Go To Peter and Learn How To Overcome Mistakes with God’s Unfailing Grace. Let’s turn to Luke 22.  Peter’s life is a powerful example of redemption and grace despite making mistakes. Peter, one of Jesus' closest disciples, denies knowing Jesus three times during Jesus’s trial. Despite this failure, Jesus restores Peter after His resurrection, reaffirming Peter’s role as a leader in the early Church. And this demonstrates God's grace and forgiveness. Let’s Check Out Peter’s Denial and Restoration.Luke 22:61-62 shows Peter’s moment of failure: "And the Lord turned, and looked upon Peter. And Peter remembered the word of the Lord, how he had said unto him, Before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice. And Peter went out, and wept bitterly." So there’s Peter’s recognition of making a mistake.  Let’s turn to John 21. There Is Grace in Mistakes.After His resurrection, Jesus restores Peter. And John 21:15-17 records this moment of grace: "So when they had dined, Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? He saith unto him, Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love thee. He saith unto him, Feed my lambs." Despite his mistakes, Peter is reaffirmed and commissioned to lead. How Can We Apply This to Our Lives? Let’s turn to Ephesians 2.  Peter’s story encourages us to understand that despite our mistakes, God’s grace is always available to bring us back and empower us to fulfill our purpose. It teaches us about the transformative power of grace. Peter, who had denied Christ, was chosen to lead the early Church, showing that God’s grace can restore and empower us regardless of our past. Now, Let’s Check Out Christ’s Love for the Church. Let’s turn to Ephesians 5. In Ephesians, there’s a beautiful analogy of Christ’s love for the Church through the role of husbands. And Ephesians 5:25-28 says, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself." That’s the Sacrificial Love of Christ.Christ's love for the Church is sacrificial and purifying. He gave Himself for the Church to sanctify and cleanse it. Similarly, husbands are to love their wives selflessly, being Christ-like and reflecting Christ’s love. How Can We Apply This To Our Lives? This sacrificial love exemplified by Christ demonstrates the depth of God's grace. Just as Christ loves the Church unconditionally, husbands are called to love their wives, showing how the grace of God is applied in their marriages. As husbands, we benefit from God’s unconditional love by learning to love our wives as Christ loves the Church, creating a loving and grace-filled family environment. Let’s Now Apply These Lessons by Living as Conquerors. We are called to live as conquerors, empowered by God’s grace. Here are five ways to incorporate grace into our daily lives: Be Strong in Grace:II Timothy 2:1 encourages us to "be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus." Strength in grace means relying on God’s power and not our own. Grow in Grace:II Peter 3:18 exhorts us to "grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ." Growing in grace involves deepening our relationship with God through His Word, prayer, renewing our minds, and manifesting unconditional love. Abound in Grace:II Corinthians 9:8 assures us that "God is able to make all grace abound toward you." Abounding in grace means recognizing and celebrating the numerous ways God’s favor manifests in our lives. Steward God’s Grace:I Peter 4:10 calls us to "minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God." Being good stewards of grace involves sharing God’s love and kindness with others. Don’t Receive Grace in Vain:II Corinthians 6:1 reminds us to "not receive the grace of God in vain." This means actively living out our believing, not turning away from sound doctrine, but rather ensuring that God’s grace has a meaningful impact on our lives and the lives of those around us. In Conclusion, Let’s Embrace the Fullness of God’s Grace. As we reflect on the lives of Jonah, Ruth, and Peter, we see the powerful impact of God's grace. Despite their failures and challenges, God's unconditional love and unmerited favor transformed their lives, offering second chances, redemption, and abundant blessings. These stories remind us that God's grace is always available, no matter how far we stray or how many mistakes we make. By embracing God's grace, we can live as conquerors, experiencing His love and favor in every aspect of our lives. Let’s thank God for His incredible grace and apply these truths daily, living as witnesses to His unconditional love and reflecting the abundance He has graciously provided. Let’s thank God for His incredible grace. And let’s apply these truths to our lives every day. Extra Verses for Reference: Be Strong in GraceII Timothy 2:1 Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. Grow in GraceII Peter 3:18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever. Amen. Abound in GraceII Corinthians 9:8 And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work. Steward God’s GraceI Peter 4:10 As every man hath received the gift, even so, minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. Don’t Receive Grace in VainII Corinthians 6:1 We then, as workers together with him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain.

Welcome to our Raleigh home bible fellowship. God bless you. In this home bible fellowship teaching, we'll learn a bit about communicating with each other without worthless words. In Ephesians 4:29, it says to not let unwholesome (foul, profane, worthless, vulgar) words ever come out of your mouth. Now, I don't know about you, but after a beer with some male friends on a boys night out, some foul words come out. Ya know what I mean?  But that's not what we're talking about here. We're not talking about some friends letting slip some f-bombs. We're talking about how a man or woman can build a person up. Building people up. Blessing people with words that strengthen them up is a clear sign of a mature person, particularly when the words are specific, encouraging, thoughtful, or insightful words that need to be heard. Ephesians 4:29 is a spiritual truth from which to learn how to use speech that is good for the building up of others according to the need and the occasion. And there's a purpose for this type of communication. The purpose is to construct your words in such a way that they will be a blessing to those who hear you speak. Have you ever been in a conversation at a party, and you're talking with one or two other people. Then slowly you notice that a few others start to lean into your circle of conversation, and they start to listen to what you have to say, and you see others start to nod and smile as you speak in agreement. This is a moment that you see the importance of letting no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth.  Ephesians 4:29 says, "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." It's a Powerful Way to Live Doesn’t this sound like a powerful way to live? As mature men and women, we want our mouths to speak that which is good. In the context of (or in the verses surrounding) Ephesians 4:29 are two verses that give us specific advice on how to do this. Ephesians 4:31 tells us what kind of communication to NOT communicate, to not use in conversation with others, to “put away." Ephesians 4:32 shows us what we can become. Put Away What should we "put away?" Ephesians 4:31 says, "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice." Let's look at this verse word by word.  Bitterness Bitterness in this spiritual truth means like a poison. When something is bitter, it's sharp and stinging. Words can sting. Like a bad bee sting. They can't kill you, but man! They can hurt. Bitterness can build up in our thoughts and minds when problems go unresolved or when we hold onto grudges. When we have problems in our minds, our words are problematic. Therefore, we need to pay attention to our words, solve outstanding problems and issues with others, and "put away" bitter, stinging words.  Wrath Put away wrath. Wrath in this verse is like anger. Wrath can flare up like a flame. Anger can come out of us particularly when we feel tired. Therefore, get make sure you get some good sleep every night.  Anger Anger used in this verse means indignation which has arisen gradually. It's like a lasting resentment. Prolonged and deep-seated anger needs to be resolved. Pray, ask for help from a spouse, consult with someone else, get help from a trusted friend or maybe even a professional therapist. To communicate well with others, we need to resolve all anger that's within ourselves.  Clamor Clamor is an outcry. Ever notice a loud, unruly man who speaks aggressively in a boisterous, brawling manner of speech. This is clamor. We want to put away this type of behavior. No one truly values an out-of-order, loud mouth. Those words are not graceful or good to the use of edifying, so we put them away. Evil Speaking Evil speaking is in reference to slanderous speech that is injurious to another person's good name. A spiritually mature person does not want to purposely injure another. But it can happen if we do not pay attention, if we are not mindful, of the words we speak. Therefore, think about what you say in reference to others. Speak well of others.  Malice Malice indicates having ill will or a desire to injure someone or see them suffer. Simply, we are to put away all malice. Out of the Heart and Buddha Jesus taught that the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. The Buddha taught others about using the right kind of speech. By speaking kind and helpful words, we can become respected and trusted by others. Using the right type of speech is one of the noble eightfold paths of enlightenment that he taught. And using the right speech ultimately helps others to end their suffering.  And what is the right type of speech? The Buddha taught others to abstain from using words that were lies, divisive, abusive, and idle chatter. This he called "right speech." I agree. And this all seems to be truthful and helpful.  But  Ephesians 4:32 says , "And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32 shows us what we want to become by using good, right communication to others. We are to be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another.  Become Kind One to Another Kind as it's used here means good, gracious, and easy. It carries the sense of being mild or pleasant as opposed to being harsh, hard, sharp, or bitter. When we are kind, we are actively doing good in spite of someone else's behavior. When we are kind, endorphins in our brains are released. Endorphins, which are  structurally similar to the drug morphine, are considered natural painkillers because they activate opioid receptors in the brain that help minimize discomfort and bring about feelings of euphoria and general well-being. Kindness gets you high.   Love is Kind The love of God is kind, as I Corinthians 13:4 teaches us. And gentleness or kindness is a fruit of our spirit (Galatians 5:22). Kindness is spiritual in nature. The sign of a spiritually-mature person is one who is kind to others.  Tenderhearted and Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche Tenderhearted requires compassion. To be tenderhearted to others means being benevolent, empathic, and showing mercy. We should show, conduct, and express compassion to one another. And in doing so, we become tenderhearted. Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, founder of Naropa and Shambhala Mountain Center,   taught that the foundation of fearlessness of a warrior king is when that man renounces his hard-heartedness and allows himself to be tender, open, exposed, and fully present. A warrior king is careful to not enclose himself with a thick impenetrable armour, but allows himself to be open, soft, and sensitive.  Forgiving It can seem very difficult to be forgiving, but Ephesians 4:32 doesn’t stop at “forgiving one another.” The verse continues with “even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” What does that mean? It means that for a man (or woman) to become forgiving to another person, he must recognize that something greater than himself, that ultimate spirit of love, has forgiven him. We exist because of forgiveness and unconditional love, and that love just keeps flowing. Love keeps flowing. It's like a river that flows. If someone has done you wrong or said something terrible to you, don't dwell on that like a rock in a river. But instead, just flow right past it. Ask yourself, "What's next?" Just keep moving. Just as as the river flows, it changes. And so can you. You change. You're no longer who you were before reading these words. You've changed. And so, if you are to forgive others, you must understand that there's other processes in place that make forgiveness much easier than you think. Just let it flow. Summary As we put away bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, evil speaking, and all malice and become kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving to one another, the natural result (the fruit that grows outwardly from the tree) will be words that are good to the use of edifying and words that minister grace to the hearer. This is an abundant and powerful way to live.

Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. God bless you. Words hold incredible power—they can either build up or tear down. As Proverbs 18:21 reminds us, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue." In our daily interactions, we have the choice to bring life and peace to others through what we say. By pausing before we speak and actively pursuing peace, we can use our words to positively impact the lives of those around us. Two Practical Ways With our words, we have the power to bring life and peace to others. Here are two practical ways to help us accomplish this: we can pause before we speak, and we can aim for and pursue peace as we speak. Pause Pause means a temporary stop or rest. Maybe you have stopped yourself at one time because of uncertainty, for example.  Here are two verses that help us to pause before we speak: Proverbs 29:20: Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? There is more hope of a fool than of him. James 1:19: Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak…. By pausing before we speak, we can consciously decide to speak words that bring life and peace and refrain from speaking words that don’t do that. Some situations we encounter are more complicated than others. Especially in these situations, it is important to be slow to speak, not hasty in our words. Casting Stones We see Jesus Christ operating this principle (swift to hear, slow to speak) in a very challenging situation (a situation between life and death). In the record of John 8, the scribes and Pharisees asked Jesus a question with the goal of tempting him in order to condemn him. Jesus’ response would directly affect the life of a woman brought before him, who had been accused by men of committing adultery.  John 8:1-13: Jesus went unto the mount of Olives. And early in the morning he came again into the temple court, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them. And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst. (They made her stand in the center of the court. They put her on trial!) They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?  (So what do you say to do with her—what is your sentence?”) This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. (He paused.) So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground. (He paused again.) And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience (the inner sense of what is right or wrong) went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. (The old religious men, men in authority, left first. They were the least innocent.) When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, "Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?" She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, "Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more." Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, "I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life." In this passage, we see Jesus repeatedly pausing before responding to the accusers. His pauses represent moments of reflection rather than impulsive reaction. When confronted with difficult situations or moral dilemmas, this teaches us the importance of pausing, thinking carefully, and avoiding hasty judgment. Quick reactions can lead to harsh words or actions, but taking time to reflect can lead to a more thoughtful and just response. When Jesus said, "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone," He invited the accusers to reflect on their own lives and faults. This lesson calls us to look inward before we criticize or condemn others. None of us are without fault, and this awareness can foster humility and compassion for others. Jesus’ treatment of the woman emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and grace. Rather than condemning her for her actions, He offers her a path forward: "Go, and sin no more." This teaches us that, rather than holding others to their past mistakes, we should offer forgiveness and encourage growth and change. Grace does not ignore wrongdoing but provides the opportunity for redemption and new beginnings. The scribes and Pharisees were more interested in following the letter of the law than in understanding the situation with compassion. Jesus, however, demonstrated that compassion is more important than strict legalism. This teaches us to consider the broader impact of our judgments and decisions, prioritizing love and empathy over rigid rules. At the end of the passage, Jesus reminds the people, "I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life." This reminds us that we are called to be a source of light and goodness, not judgment and condemnation. By following Jesus’ example of mercy and understanding, we reflect His light in our interactions with others. Let the Word Dwell Within You In Colossians 3:16, it says, "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom." The word here can refer to the lessons learned from certain situations, such as the one in John 8 with Jesus and the woman. Let that word (that story, those words of Jesus Christ, that life lesson, let that) dwell in your heart and mind. Let it permeate every aspect of your being, as you learn and share spiritual life lessons. And be sure to admonish (counsel or advise) and train one another with all spiritual wisdom. That's what Colossians says. That's what the word says. That's our standard. Our Standard Keeping God’s Word as our standard, we have a great resource to help communicate words that can lift a burden, lighten a heart, and bring life and peace. When the Word dwells richly in our hearts—when we are reading and thinking it consistently—it is easier to pause, and to bring those edifying words of life and peace to our minds, and then speak them to others. Follow After Peace Another practical way we can help assure that our words will bring life and peace to others is to follow after peace. Aim for and pursue peace.  In Romans 14:19, it says, "Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." The Greek word translated “follow after” means to pursue. That is an active word! It reminds me of our Constitution’s preamble, which says, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men AND WOMEN are created equal, that they are endowed, by their Creator, with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.” As we make up our minds to actively pursue what makes for peace and rest and harmony, our words will reflect this. We frame our communications with the aim of bringing life and peace. How We Say Things One way we can actively pursue peace in our speech is by watching how we say things, not just what we say. When our body language and tone reflect peace, others are more likely to be peaceful also. Pursuing peace gives us a head start in speaking words that bring life and peace to others. Summary We have learned that the words we speak are powerful. Our words can bring life and peace as we choose to base our communications on a standard—God’s Word. As we allow the Word of God to dwell in us richly, we can pause and bring His words of life and peace to our minds and mouths—especially in challenging situations. As we aim for and pursue peace, our communications will reflect the truth of God’s Word in our hearts. We will see that our words do have power to bring life and peace to others. - Benjamin

​One of the best things in life is to be thankful. It’s simple to remain thankful when we keep in mind what God has done for us. Take a moment right now to think about some of the things you’re thankful for. ​My advice is to learn that when we have an attitude of thankfulness, that puts us in a frame of mind to believe the best, and we then can see how we can be successful and triumphant in every situation. By being thankful, we can help and serve others so that they can be victorious as well. You Have Been Invited Colossians 3:15 says, "And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body, and be ye thankful." That spiritual truth means that we can let peace (that inner calm) be the controlling factor in your hearts and minds, which can help us decide and settle questions and concerns that may arise in our thoughts. To this spiritual peace, you have been invited as a believer. You have been invited to believe in and experience this spiritual peace in life. And be thankful for it. There's So Much to Be Thankful For We have so much to be thankful for. The house we live in. The food we eat. The clothes we wear. The school that we go to. The work that we do. And each other. I’m thankful for the family that I have. And all of our needs be being met. In Philippians 4:19, there’s a promise that all of our needs will be supplied. Choose to Be Thankful 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says that in every situation, we can choose to be thankful and to give thanks. Why? Why is thankfulness so important in our lives? When we are thankful, we are continually aware of the good things God has done for us and given us and invited us to experience. By being thankful, we practice the continual presence of God in our lives. Colossians 1:12 says, “Giving thanks unto the Father, which hath made us meet (made us sufficient) to be partakers (to share fully) of the inheritance of the saints (believers) in light. We give thanks that we can partake, live, and share fully everything this world has to offer. Triumph 2 Corinthians 2:14 says, “Now thanks be unto God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ, and maketh manifest the savor of his knowledge by us in every place.” What’s that verse mean? When we give thanks to God, it causes us to be successful, victorious, prevail, achieve, and be triumphant in spirit. And through us and our success in life, that knowledge of God (what we know about God) is like a savor (a sweet fragrance) that is spread out and made evident (manifested) everywhere. We’re thankful that God always, always, not sometimes, not only on Sundays, not once a month, but always, always causes us to triumph. Even if we face a negative situation, we can find something to be thankful for while claiming a promise of God with believing. An attitude of thankfulness puts us in a frame of mind to believe, and we can see that victory come to pass. Remember (with thankfulness) what has been done for us. Remember what has been given to us. Remember (with thankfulness) who you are, where you are, and what you’re doing. Remembering (with thankfulness) will help us continue to stand on the spiritual truths that we know. Born Again In the past, I was alone, broke, with no direction or hope. Then, I met an amazing, outstanding woman, and I became a new person, literally born-again. When we’re born again, we are made near to God. Ephesians 2:13 says, “But now in Christ Jesus, you who sometimes were far off are made near.” When we’re aware of truths like this, it’s simple to be full of thanks. Our logical response now to everything in my life is to be thankful. And to take a stand for God, give, and live in service. Be Transformed Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of being thankful and serving others. And do not be conformed to this world any longer with its superficial values and customs, but be transformed and progressively changed as you mature spiritually by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove for yourselves what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect in His plan and purpose for you. Serve Others Being thankful helps us serve (to do things for others) with a renewed mind and spiritual attitude: when we pray for someone else who has a need, when we reach out and help someone, when we give someone our time and watch a movie together, when we teach someone something new, when we help someone with something their struggling with, when we prepare a meal for someone, when we take care of someone’s child babysitting, when we simply give someone a refreshing drink or a 10-second hug. We can be that type of person who as an attitude of being thankful, which puts us in a frame of mind to believe. And when there’s an opportunity to serve, we’re the first ones to say, “Here you go. I can do that for you.” And the result of our service with a thankful heart and mind is that others are blessed, God is glorified, and we are always richly rewarded when we serve others with love in our hearts. Thankfulness in our hearts also smooths the way for a relationship to be sweeter. When we are thankful for what God has done for us, we may find it easier to forgive others, because we remember what God has forgiven us for. Ephesians 4:32 says, “And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Being thankful truly helps us put on the mind of Christ and be like him. Being thankful is so important in our lives. Thankfulness actually leads to giving thanks. Thankfulness inspires us to serve others and to give thanks. Thanks be to God. Ephesians 5:20 says, “Give thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” The truth of the matter is to give thanks, and to do it always. It takes no extra time at all to be thankful and to give thanks for all our blessings. And to give thanks well, we pray. Apostle Paul wrote a letter to a group of folks in Thessalonica (a port in Greece, north of Athens), and 1 Thessalonians 5:16-27 reads, “Rejoice always and delight in your believing. Be unceasing and persistent in prayer. In every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God. For this is the will of God for you. Do not quench subdue, or be unresponsive to the working and guidance of the holy spirit that is in you. Do not scorn or reject gifts of prophecies, which are spoken revelations—words of instruction or exhortation that you receive by praying. But test and examine and think about all things carefully so you can recognize what is good. Hold firmly to what is good. … and pray. And greet all the believers with a holy kiss. I solemnly charge you to have this read before all the congregation.” It's a Choice Thankfulness is a choice. God’s will for us is to have a thankful heart and mind and give thanks in everything. So that’s what we choose to do. By our choice, we determine our own thankfulness. Rather than focusing on the inconveniences, the negatives, or the pain of the situation, we can choose to remember what God has done for us, what we’re thankful for, so that we can live a life filled with love, joy, peace, power, and also to help others. A key to maintaining a mindset of thankfulness is prayer. When we pray, we speak to God from our hearts. We share our deepest thoughts. We get quiet and speak. Just like a child speaks to her dad. Praying helps get our thoughts straight. It also helps us unwind and release what's going on in our heads. Praying helps us remember that our needs our met. It can bring to mind what has been given to us. Peace Apostle Paul knew about the power of prayer when he wrote not just to believers in Philippi a long time ago, but also to you. To you, a letter, which in Philippians 4:6 reads, “Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything, every circumstance and situation, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your specific requests known to God. And what will result? The peace of God, that peace which reassures your heart, that peace which transcends everything you understand, that peace which stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus, that peace is yours.” I have learned that the more thankful I am for what I have today, the more I'll have to be thankful for tomorrow. The blessings just keep coming. Summary Giving thanks is so important in our lives. It helps us see what God has done for us. It helps us help and serve others. Being thankful is a choice. We choose what to put in our minds. We choose what thoughts stay in our minds. Rather than feeding ourselves negative thoughts and focusing on the bad things, we choose to remember, to look at, the good things, what has been done for us, given to us to enjoy, so that we can joyfully give thanks for everything. We choose to be thankful. And we have so much to be thankful for. Let’s keep developing and working on our thoughts of thankfulness and enjoy the rich blessings and success in our lives. Let’s be thankful in every situation every day. I hope that advice helps you be a better person and live a better life.

Welcome to our home bible fellowship in Raleigh. God bless you. Welcome to our home Bible fellowship in Raleigh. Today, we explore the inspiring story of Aquila and Priscilla, a remarkable couple whose dedication to spreading God's Word and supporting Apostle Paul made a significant impact on the early Christian church. Through their example, we learn valuable lessons about teamwork, hospitality, and the power of living and working together in faith. Join us as we delve into their story and discover how we too can become faithful workers in Christ's ministry. I was thinking about my fellowship with God and with other believers. And about speaking the Word with and to others, and being an example to others at the coffee shop and in our neighborhood. And I thought about our new neighborhood, and our new house. And for some reason, I thought, what if Alicia and I moved right next to Aquila and Priscilla’s house.  Aquila and Priscilla, two wonderful believers. Apostle Paul knew them, and wrote about them. In Romans 16:3-5 , Paul writes, “3 Greet Priscilla and Aquila my helpers  in Christ Jesus. 4 Who have for my life laid down their own necks. Unto whom not only I give thanks, but also all the churches  of the Gentiles. 5 Likewise, greet the church that is in their house .” Paul speaks so highly of these two fellow believers. They were important to Paul. He called them “my helpers.” Using my Blue Letter Bible app, we see that “helper” in Romans 16:3 is the Greek word “synergos,” meaning fellow worker, a companion in work, and a workfellow.  This is the first occurrence of this snyergos-workfellow word. Right here in Romans 16:3. So, these two people are the first examples of what synergos-workfellows are. We can learn how to be helpers or fellow laborers in Christ by understanding more about Aquila and Priscilla.  When I was recently reading about Aquila and Priscilla, I learned a little bit more about myself and my wife. This wonderful married couple were fellow workers with the Apostle Paul.  (1) They lived and worked with Paul. I live and work with my wife.  (2) They helped Paul start new fellowships. My wife and I can help start new fellowships.  (3) They hosted home fellowships. My wife and I can host fellowships, and classes.  Please turn to Acts 18 , and let’s take a look at how Aquila and Priscilla lived and worked with Paul. (1) They lived and worked with Paul. (2) They helped Paul start new fellowships. (3) They hosted home fellowships.  In Acts 18:1-2 , it reads, “1 After these things, Paul departed from Athens (Greece), and came to Corinth (Greece). 2 And found a certain Jew named Aquila, born in Pontus.” (Aquila was a Jew, born in Pontus, in what is now Turkey. He emigrated to Rome, where he met and fell in love with Priscilla in Italy.) Verse 2 continues… “Lately come from Italy, with his wife Priscilla; (because that Claudius had commanded all Jews to depart from Rome:) and came unto them.” So Aquila and Priscilla travel “lately” from Italy to Corinth, Greece. They meet Paul in Greece.  In Acts 18:3, it says , “3 And because he was of the same craft, he (Paul) abode with them, and wrought: for by their occupation they were tentmakers.” So, (the first point I wanted to share) Paul, Aquila, and Priscilla lived and worked together. They fellowshiped with each other. Daily. They believed together. They rejoiced together. They strengthened each other with love and respect for each other. They were united.  Aquila and Priscilla were forced to leave their home in Rome, Italy. They could have become discouraged. They could have quit. They were uprooted from their home. But they stayed focused, held fast, were united, and spiritually energized. And they are written down, in the Word, as great examples of two people, a married couple, who stuck together, and were fellow believers and are great examples.  Not only did they know Apostle Paul, they lived with Paul, worked alongside him, and ate meals together. They sailed on ships with Paul (Acts 18:18). They were Paul’s helpers in Christ (as we just read in Romans 16:3). They ran fellowships (as we read in Romans 16:5). And they stood faithful with Paul throughout his ministry (as they’re saluted to in 2 Timothy 4:19). What a great team of believers. What a great fellowship they had with each other and with God. When we team up with fellow believers, and other disciples, we help each other build our believing and fellowship with God, and stay steadfast on God’s plain, simple, and good path in life. (2nd point I wanted to share) Aquila and Priscilla helped Paul start new fellowships. Corinth, Greece, was one of those areas where they started a fellowship. But when Paul left and sailed to Syria, Aquila and Priscilla sailed with him. Acts 18:18-19 says, “18 And Paul after this tarried there yet a good while, and then took his leave of the brethren, and sailed thence into Syria, and with him Priscilla and Aquila;  having shorn his head (got a hair cut) in Cenchrea: for he had a vow. 19 And he came to Ephesus, and left them there: but he himself entered into the synagogue, and reasoned with the Jews.” Paul, Aquila, and Priscilla sailed from Corinth, Greece, to Syria. Then they all went to Ephesus. Priscilla and Aquila stayed in Ephesus. And Paul continued on his voyage to other places. When Paul returned, the Word grew mightly in that area in the space of two years to the point where, as it says in Acts 19:10 , “And this continued by the space of two years. So that all they who dwelt in Asia  heard the word of the Lord Jesus, both Jews (Judeans) and Greeks (Gentiles).” Aquila and Priscilla were with Paul during this time. They were really spreading the Word, together, as coworking-fellowshipping believers to the point where everyone in Asia heard the Word. (3rd point I wanted to share)  Aquila and Priscilla hosted home fellowships in both Rome, Italy, and in Ephesus (western coast of Turkey). Romans 16:5 says, “Likewise greet the church that is in their house  (Aquila and Priscilla’s house).” And 1 Corinthians 16:19 says, “The churches of Asia salute you. Aquila and Priscilla salute you much in the Lord, with the church that is in their house. ” So, they had fellowships in their home. That’s one of the reasons Paul was so thankful for them.  (1) Aquila and Priscilla lived and worked with Paul. (2) They opened new areas of outreach with him. (3) And they hosted home fellowships.  These two believers, Aquila and Priscilla, learned a lot from Paul as he shared and taught the Word. Paul taught about the great mystery, the Grace Administration, the hope of Christ’s return, the accomplishments of Jesus Christ, and the one body of Christ. Being “synergos” or fellow workers with Paul, brought great benefits to Aquila and Priscilla, as they were willing to serve by speaking the Word to others.  For example, when Aquila and Priscilla were in Ephesus, they met Apollos, and “expounded unto him, the way of God more perfectly.” Acts 18:24-26  says, “24 And a certain Jew named Apollos, born at Alexandria, an eloquent man, and mighty in the scriptures, came to Ephesus. 25 This man was instructed in the way of the Lord; and being fervent in the spirit, he spake and taught diligently the things of the Lord, knowing only the baptism of John . 26 And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when Aquila and Priscilla had heard, they took him unto them, and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly .”  Aquila and Priscilla took the time to speak the Word and teach the accurate Word to Apollos and to others. They learned enough  from Paul to teach others  in their home fellowships.  Aquila and Priscilla are great examples of fellow laborers. (1) They lived and worked with Apostle Paul. (2) They helped open new areas of outreach. (3) They hosted home fellowships.  They learned a lot. They spoke the Word, and taught others, what they knew, to bring them, to a knowledge of the truth. Not only was Paul thankful for them, but, as Romans 16:4 says, “unto whom not only I give thanks, but also all the churches  of the Gentiles.”  Conclusion Aquila and Priscilla's story teaches us the profound impact that faithful teamwork and dedication to God's Word can have on our lives and communities. By living and working together with Apostle Paul, opening new areas of outreach, and hosting home fellowships, they set a powerful example for us to follow. As fellow believers, we too can spread the Word and support one another in our spiritual journeys. Let us be inspired by their legacy and strive to be "synergos"—fellow workers in Christ—bringing God's truth and love to those around us. Just like Aquila and Priscilla, we too can have an impact on spreading the Word as fellow believers. And that’s what I wanted to share.

Every day, my wife and I make time for a walk in our neighborhood. It's become a cherished routine—morning and evening, on grass, sidewalks, or by the roadside. As we walk, we talk about everything, from the big issues to the small, mundane details of life. These walks are more than just exercise; they're a time for connection and understanding. And sometimes, understanding means just listening. I've learned that when my wife says, "Babe, I’m not asking you to fix anything, just listen," it’s a gentle reminder that sometimes the best way to help is simply to listen. Today, l et’s dive into the power of listening, exploring why it’s so vital in our relationships and how we can become better listeners. By looking at examples from the Bible, we’ll see how listening can transform our interactions and help us truly support those around us. Why Listen? Why do we want to listen well? Being good listener can make a big difference in our ability to help someone. People who listen well stay focused, ask good questions, they try to understand, and respond with a heart and mind to help. Be Quick to Hear James 1:19 says, “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.” We are to be quick and speedy to hear. We have two ears and one mouth, so listening may be twice as important as talking. Listening is a great way to show love to someone and demonstrate that their life is important to you. And after we listen and understand more, we can then speak the truth in love. We want to demonstrate our love and compassion for others. I John 3:17 says, “But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?” What are the bowels of compassion? That means the tender affections, kindness, benevolence, and compassion. We listen to others with compassionate kindness. With the love of God that dwells in us, we help others to meet their needs in this world with the spiritual truths we learn from God’s Word. So, first, we’re quick to listen, then, second, we gain understanding in order to help. Proverbs 18:13 says, “She that answereth a matter before she heareth it, it is folly and shame unto the her.” So, don’t respond to someone without first hearing what they have to say. Listening to gain understanding to help others is important. Remember, we are quick to hear, and we are slow to speak. No Formula, But Practical Keys There’s not a perfect technique or formula for being a good listener. It’s more about an attitude of heart. We listen with a heart to help people, knowing that we have a spirit within us and the spiritual truths we have learned to apply to help others. We can listen to help. There are some practical keys that can make us better listeners: Be quick to hear. Slow to speak. Be engaged. Be aware of your response (verbal and non-verbal) to what you hear. Avoid judging and being critical. Seek to understand. And ask questions. We can become genuinely interested in people and get engaged in their lives when we listen with love and respect. We gain their trust and come to know what kind of help they need. And we have the love of God to give to help them. One aspect of engaging with someone is to first handle distractions. You may need to move to a quieter place, turn off the music, put down your phone, and look directly at the person whose speaking to you. I have to remind myself to remove my hands from my keyboard, so that I can listen better to someone whose talking to me while I’m typing. And when someone is talking, believe to understand. Believe to understand them. When we focus on listening and believing to understand, we show that we value what people have to say. Our Response Another key to listening well is for us to be aware of how we respond to what we hear. Our response can greatly determine what is shared. If someone thinks that we’re giving a negative response, they may struggle to continue to speak openly. A positive response could be a simple nod, smile, saying, “I hear you,” eye contact, and leaning closer. Proverbs 20:5 says, “Counsel in the heart of a woman is like deep water, but a woman of understanding will draw it out.” Refrain from Judgement While listening we refrain from judgement or criticism, and we listen openly, which is another important key to listening well. We can avoid judging others according to our own emotions, our own experiences, or preconceived ideas. When we listen to others while being careful not to be critical of their thoughts or feelings, we make them feel at ease. Remember, we are seeking to gain an understanding so that we can help people with a spiritually-based, good response. Ask Questions Asking questions is another practical key to listening well that helps people to open up and talk. For example, let’s say someone says to you, “Boy, I’m tired.” What you can ask is something like, “What kind of tired are you?” This one question may open up the person to a more in-depth conversation. Philip In Acts 8:30, there’s a story about Philip. Philip applied this principle of asking questions as a key to listening well. One day, Philip was walking along and saw a man off to the side reading. Philip could have just passed him by. But instead he asked, “Understandest thou what thou readest?” And that one question lead to a life-changing conversation between the two men that you can read about in Acts, Chapter 8. Jesus Christ Another example of a good listener can be found in a story of Jesus Christ. He was listening to help in Luke 24, beginning in verse 13. In this story, two of Jesus’ followers were walking along the road to Emmaus, just after witnessing some shocking, life-changing events. As they were walking, they were trying to adjust to the new state of affairs. The person that they were following, Jesus, was killed. They witnessed that. But now they hear people reporting seeing angels, others saying that Jesus was alive again, and others saying that Jesus’s tomb was empty. Well, Jesus caught up to them and began walking with them along the road, but the two men didn’t recognize Jesus. Luke 24, verse 17, shows that Jesus listened to the two men carefully, gained an understanding of why they were sad, and asked them a question. Jesus asked, “What manner of communications are these that ye have one to another, as ye walk, and are sad?” He asked the question, although he knew the answer. The answer was that he himself was the subject of their discussion. He could have illuminated their thinking immediately, but Jesus encouraged them to talk about what had happened, what they experienced, and what they heard. He listened to them. Then he responded. Luke 24, verse 25 and 27 reads, “Then he said unto them, O fools, and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken. And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, Jesus expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself.” He taught them everything. Jesus didn’t reveal who he was to them. But because he listened well, he was able to answer their questions, and teach them the Word, the spiritual truths, that they needed in order to be encouraged, and to have no fear, but to rejoice in what had happened. Jesus worked with these two men, listening and talking, because they were confused and not yet convinced of the truths concerning Jesus Christ. Later the men talked about their time walking and talking with Jesus, saying, “Did not our hearts burn within us, while he talked with us by the way, and while he opened to us the scriptures?” The really enjoyed the conversation. Like Jesus Christ, we too can listen to people when they need help in their believing. Being a good listener can make a big difference in our ability to help someone. We can ask good questions. Stay focused on what we hear, just like Jesus did on the road to Emmaus. Be Ready I Peter 3:15 says, “But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and respect.” Be Graceful Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” Give When we listen to someone, it doesn’t matter who it is, we want to help. Then we can give to them the spiritual truths that we know with love and care. We want to listen well to help. Summary Proverbs 25:11 says, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” Listening can make a big difference in our ability to help someone. So, let’s be ready to listen well. Verse references: James 1:19 I John 3:17 Proverbs 18:13 Proverbs 20:5 I Peter 3:15 Colossians 4:6

Visualization has been a part of elite sports for a long time. Olympic athletes use images of victory to help them achieve their goals and win competitions. Athletes mentally practice and simulate the competition. For example, a down hill skier may sit in a chair, close their eyes, and mentally visualize the downhill course, including every curve and turn. We too can use believing images of victory to experience great success in our lives. We can picture ourselves speaking God’s Word with confidence and boldness, overcoming hesitation. Bright Lights Apostle Paul, while in prison, wrote to people who lived in Philippi (Philippians Chapter 2:15-16). He wrote this letter to express his appreciation and affection for the Philippian believers, and the spiritual truths that she shared with the Philippians back then are applicable for us today. He wrote that we may show ourselves to be innocent and uncontaminated in the midst of crooked and wicked people, among whom you are seen as bright lights (stars or beacons shining out clearly) in the dark world, holding out to it and offering to all men and women the Word of Life. Paul had a believing image of the Word of Life being held forth by people who believed in God. We, too, can build a believing image of ourselves doing the same thing. Ambassadors One example of a believing image of victory is that we can see ourselves as bold ambassadors for Christ. We can mentally hold an image of ourselves that is described in II Corinthians 5:20, which says that we are ambassadors for Christ. In the King James Version, 2 Cor 5:20 says, "Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ's stead, be ye reconciled to God." What does "ambassadors for Christ" mean? It means that we are people who can act as representatives or promoters. We represent. We promote. So we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God was making an appeal through us. We promote, we speak, we demonstrate, we live as examples of how to be reconciled to God. What does it mean to be "reconciled to God." On a basic human level, when two people (especially two people who are friends) have a disagreement about something, or when one person does something hurtful to the other, it causes a rift in their relationship. The more serious the issue is, or the more one person is hurt by the other (especially if the hurtful actions are intentional), the deeper that rift will be. For those two people to return to their former state of harmony and agreement, it is necessary for those two people to become reconciled to one another -- that is, for one or both people to indicate through their words and/or actions: (a) the reason for the break in their relationship; (b) a responsibility for contributing to that break; (c) some regret or sorrow for those words or actions; and (d) a promise that the cause of the break will not be repeated. Now, God created us to live in perfect harmony and fellowship with Himself. Since God is spirit, fellowship between God and us, therefore, requires some spiritual work, some necessary thoughts or actions to keep our fellowship connected and in good shape. God is making an appeal through us (asking others urgently and fervently to do something). We plead on Christ's behalf (we offer or present a reason for doing or not doing something) to be reconciled to God (to build or restore friendly relations between us and God). And that's what Paul meant in his letter. He wanted people to be ambassadors who help people get reconciled or back together with God. And remember, what is God? Creator, Faithful, Good, Great, Powerful, Strong, Spirit, Not a Man, Peace, Father, Supplier, Light, and Love. In 1 John 4:16, it says that God is love. That's pretty plain and simple to understand. What do you love? I love my wife, my children, pepperoni pizza, football, and many other things. But who do you love? Who? Because where there is love between people, there God is. Prepare to Be Ambassadors One way to help prepare ourselves to help others build a good relationship between them and God is by seeing ourselves (picturing ourselves) as ambassadors, just like Jesus did. Jesus spoke, acted, and lived with the authority and dignity to represent God. We can see ourselves just like that, speaking God’s Word in our community and workplace with confidence and boldness. But what does "speaking God's Word" mean? What should we speak? According to Philippians 4:8, Paul recommends that we could talk to others about: things that are true, things that are honest, things that are just, things that are pure, things that are lovely, and things that are of good report. This is speaking God's Word. We can see ourselves as ambassadors (representatives and good examples) of living a life that is "reconciled" or connected with power, abundance, and love. We can picture ourselves helping guide someone through a class, a good book, or a fellowship teaching. We can see ourselves as someone that others can simply come to and talk with. We can see ourselves as someone who helps others, speaks well about others, and treats others as we would want to be treated. Don't Hesitate Another part of our believing image of victory is to see ourselves speaking the Word boldly and not having any hesitation to hold back our words. In Ephesians 6:19-20, the Apostle Paul believed God to successfully speak as he “ought to speak,” with nothing holding him back. We can certainly believe God to open some doors (opportunities) so that we can speak and talk to other people about what we know and want to share. And we can always picture ourselves opening our mouths and speaking God’s Word with boldness and with love. Set Goals Let’s now consider a practical key that will build our believing images of victory and help us speak the Word to others. And that the practical key is to set specific goals. Rather than passively expecting circumstances to prompt us to speak God’s Word, we actively seek opportunities to speak for God and bring love and reconciliation to people. For example, we could set the goal to speak God’s Word to one neighbor or person while walking outside in the community. Let’s always remember that God works in us to will and to do of His good pleasure (Philippians 2:13), so we can be successful in setting specific goals that will help us carry out our believing images of victory in outreach. How many people do you plan to speak God’s Word to the next time you are out in your neighborhood? How about one person? How about speaking something to that one person that relates to that list Paul gave us: Paul recommended that we could talk to others about: things that are true, things that are honest, things that are just, things that are pure, things that are lovely, and things that are of good report. Talk about one of those things. Prepare Another practical key that will help us build our believing image of victory is to further develop our knowledge of God’s Word with a vision of speaking spiritual truths to others. We can prepare ourselves to speak God’s Word. To prepare, we could consider one verse and how to clearly communicate the meaning of that one verse to a person who has never heard it. For example, we could study Mathew 5:16, which says: Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. That verse says that we can let our lights shine before other people, so that they may see the good things we do and that we give thanks. And when we're out and about in our neighborhood, we can have a great day, do fun things, and express to a nearby person how thankful we are to be living an abundant life. You could say, "Life is good. I'm sure thankful." We could also prepare examples of how good our life is. The weather is a good common-ground topic that we can also talk about with each other. I could say, "Today's weather is something special. Ain't it? I sure am thankful to be outside enjoying with everyone." So, prepare. We can prepare to speak. Preparation builds confidence and boldness. Let’s picture ourselves doing that. We will be surprised by how naturally and boldly we can explain spiritual truths to people because we have prepared. Summary As born-again believers, let’s enjoy building our believing images of victory when speaking to other people and helping people build a good relationship with God. We can see ourselves as ambassadors for Christ, boldly speaking the Word and sharing with others those simple spiritual truths that we have prepared. Just as great athletes in the world today experience success, we can achieve success in our lives by building believing images of victory!